Crossing Lines

As you know from many posts, I’m an island person. It has to do with my personality type, as my cousin likes to remind me of the Meyers Briggs test result of INTJ. I’ve taken other tests that support this and one of the strongest factors of myself is I generally don’t put up with people crossing lines of acceptance. This line may not be a public norm but will always be against my own perceived line of acceptance. It doesn’t matter who this person is to me. Family isn’t immune from my isolation. Doesn’t mean I stop loving them, and it doesn’t mean I stop interacting with them, it just means I will be extremely guarded when communicating with them. I don’t have any problem with disagreement and discussion about things we may not stand on the same page with, but when you try to throw something in my face as a means of control or hurt, then you are pretty much off my island. Generally, it will be a cold day in hell being allowed back on. This is especially poignant when the person has no presence to apologize. I still care for them. Prove me wrong with evidence and I will stand down on the disagreement. One of my biggest things about having discussion about things that can raise some ire is too make sure you know what you’re talking about. Having the facts on your side, I will take that and research for future discussions. Debate is simple, it is nothing more than having a view, a willingness to go forward with expressing your stance, although you should be solid about what you know, and certainly never talk about a big picture with a fraction of evidence thinking it is enough to ban the entirety.  

One such example is the ultra-liberal stance about never living in the state of Texas because there is a law allowing people to sue a doctor for performing abortions or anyone else that has enabled the procedure to take place, but only in the state of Texas. The law clearly states the person actually getting an abortion is immune from prosecution or lawsuit, at least via the standards of the law. And because of this law you challenge that any woman has to be nuts to move to Texas or live in Texas or raise a daughter in Texas. I think Texas has much more to offer people, especially when they aren’t ultra-spoiled financially sitting on a level of living that wouldn’t allow more than eighty percent of the people in this country to move to a state like California. I love California but even having a level of financial capability to move there, I’d rather be able to live life enjoying things of life and not be so over leveraged that I could only look at my house as the only thing in my life. Especially when you compare that I can live in a house in Texas that would be ten times the cost in California. This isn’t political, personally I have no real big opinion politically against California, with the exception of one thing, I have weapons that are illegal in California, and the law wasn’t to prevent violence in the state but was just a political stunt using the same verbiage in law as Texas has for abortions. I understand this notion that someone wouldn’t move to California because of this second amendment infraction is ludicrous. And there would be people in Texas that never could understand someone from Texas moving there, especially if they were a big proponent of second amendment rights regardless whether a job may be the driving force or taking care of an elderly parent, or any of the other multitude of reasons for moving somewhere. What seems ludicrous to me is that in either case ones anti-ability to understand doing something hinges on one thing. Really all it is an excuse to support one’s overall viewpoint about the political divisiveness in this country and being a supporter in doing exactly what you have objection from the other side doing in doing yourself. In other words, you are just as guilty of the political division of this country and just as big of the problem as the other side, regardless of viewpoint, you want people to only believe your way and if someone doesn’t believe as you, they are flat wrong and are the enemy. It truly is all bullshit, and you aren’t the solution, you’re half the problem. Can you see a united country? I’m having a hard time myself, but I also know this country will recover and divide will narrow. We, as a country, have been through this at least five times in our past, each time this country came out of it with political realignment, renewed faith in our country, and common ground taking precedence over divide. We certainly are in one of the worst, but it isn’t the Civil War where we brandished arms against each other.

But back to crossing lines and personal feeling towards it. Admittedly, most of the lines crossed against me are my self-imposed lines of acceptance. However, I’m not without understanding and sometimes when those lines are crossed my reaction will be based on intent. In other words, if the offense is intentional, I give very little consideration even if an apology did come my way. If it was unintentional and not perceived as such, then it is incumbent on me to take it into consideration. And then there is just saying something to me to put me in my so-called place. Frankly, fuck you and you will be treated as such no matter who you are. I have had very strong friendships that I walked away from for lines being crossed and have never spoken to those people since. Seriously, my life has been better without them in it. I have never wished ill-will on them, I just feel they can go on living their life without me and I’m sure they’ll do and be just fine without me in their lives too. I also have a great understanding if I cross someone else’s line, this very action would be expected towards me. And again, whether I did it intentionally or not, we’ll both be better off without the other.

Maybe I’m hard line and have always been. I don’t claim to have the answers, but I do enjoy facts more than opinions without basis. I know that is ironic with a website called opinions mumbled but also don’t forget the opinions posted are my own and no one else’s. Why? Because I didn’t do this to hear what you have to say, but I certainly give you the ability to respond. I don’t care that you might have an opinion but am glad if you do. Worse than a opinion with backing is no opinion at all. These are the mindless chumps being led by media, social media, conspiracy theories, and a blatant stance on an ideology that they can’t even explain. These are lazy people mentally, which I also have no use for. Laughingly, stay on my good side or see ya!